Dear Tracy,

Last night, another mother I know sent me a message that simply said: “You’re my Mom Goals. If I can be a quarter of the Valiant Mom you are, then I’d call myself a success”.

And all I could think was this: If only you knew. 

If only you knew that today I literally forgot to brush my teeth all day and that last week I didn’t brush my hair for three days because I kept tossing it up into a bun. If only you knew that I had my son completely potty trained and then my husband went away last summer on military orders. Which means my son backtracked completely to square one and only five months later are we mostly back on track. If only you knew that there are days I don’t want to be a mom and I’ve run all out of…we’ll call it motivation. If only you knew that my kitchen, no let’s be honest, my house needs organized like…now, and that is only the literal tip of a figurative iceberg.

So, here is what I have to say to every momma…